White privilege is getting through introductions without anyone going out of their way to ask, “What are you?”
I’m a human people thing, and I’m judging you.
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How is this discussion STILL happening on my dash? We honestly cannot sit here and bitch about white people not recognizing their privilege when we continue to deny ours.
We as white passing, fair skinned passing, light skinned individuals have privilege.. And to me, at least personally, I do not and have never identified as a PoC or a WoC because when I leave my front door and another person sees me on the street, they do not see a dark skinned Native person, they see a white person and they treat me like a fellow white person unless I otherwise tell them to stfu.
This is a huge part of our privilege and why I believe, we as fair skinned folks, are not PoC. We do not face the same racism and discrimination a darker skinned person does. And I feel like PoC as an identifier should not apply to us for that very reason.
Now, if this is offending you or hurting some delicate fee fees it is time to ask yourself the serious questions. This does not erase who we are, this does not erase our struggles, and this does not erase the things we have went through or the discrimination we face BUT it is and never will be the same as darker skinned people, and there is no reason to try and insert ourselves into these conversations or safe spaces… because we don’t need them on this level.
I get it though, it can be annoying when someone for says “oh you’re x minority? Really? But you’re so white!” I get that. I want to throat punch them too. I also understand that we hear shit that white people would never say I front of a darker skinned person. You know why that happens?
Because they think we are white, because we have white privilege. Understand your privilege and check it, because if you keep denying it, honestly, you are probably a giant hypocrite.
Only enter spaces if you are invited and only enter conversations if you are invited and even then, be very fucking aware of the privilege you have.
Seems like most people at university think I’m white, based on the lack of racial comments and other stuff.
how i know im not white passing:
when i get;
“what are you?”
“whats your ethnicity?”
“whats your race?”
“whats your nationality?”
“what country you from?”
“youre not asian?”
“youre not native american?”
why do they ask these questions?
well they have to know what you are so they will know how to treat you.
“…so they will know how to treat you.” Ugh. Now that’s racist as fuck and shows that racism is based on way more than skin color.
Nobody asks me what ethnicity I am anymore. Guess I’m white-passing?
I looked up people I knew in middle school and saw that they were all involved in ethnic clubs and seemed to mainly hang out with their own racial community. Same with everyone I went to high school with, even if they went to colleges with a lot of white people, including the ones going to the same school as me. All the ones who are in relationships are with the same race, or if it’s with a different race they’re never white.
Most of my friends are white, including every guy I’ve done anything sexual with. Mostly blonde with blue eyes. I’ve tried to get involved in communities of color and shit this quarter, but I never really felt like I fit in even though I felt welcomed. In fact, I felt as if I fit in more with foreigners from Europe.
I don’t think it should really matter though. I just want to find people I fit in with regardless of color or nationality. I just noticed that it’s different from everyone else back home.
It’s nice to finally talk to people interested in social injustice, especially on forms of it that are hardly recognized. One form of oppression hardly addressed comes with the intersectionality of being female and of color. Objectification for sex AND race together, often based on sexual stereotypes of that particular race. It comes with that condescending, degrading look in the oppressor’s eyes as they search you for their sexual expectations based on your race, done through racial questions and comments said out of context and more. They have a hard, objectifying stare as they see little else beyond those stereotypes, a stare that strips away your individuality, a stare that hypersexualizes you. Being of color makes you more of an object and less of a human being to them.
Women of color are at least twice as likely to be sexually assaulted. In a white-dominated, already misogynistic place like where I live, it doesn’t produce a welcoming, safe atmosphere.
I find this quote so problematic. It’s used to justify shaming promiscuous girls. By calling them “locks” you imply that they do not have their own sexual desires, but merely open up to the “keys” of boys. You say they are weak and worthless for not being able to resist something they’re not supposed to like. You say that girls do not pursue boys, because girls do not really feel desire, only boys do, right?
This is stupid. With so many attractive guys around where I live, how do girls not feel attraction? Oh, but guys don’t realize that because “it’s gay to find other guys attractive.”
I love it when people call me “racist” when I say I prefer guys with blonde hair and/or big blue or green eyes. Because I sounds really Aryan, I guess. It doesn’t mean I think ethnic people are automatically unattractive. I am not attracted to blondes because of conforming to white supremacy. If I supported white supremacy, I wouldn’t be trying to get so involved in social activism for next year.
There’s more to what I want. What if I told you that I usually hold out for really nice guys? That’s not the norm, is it? No, neither is being often attracted to guys described by others as awkward, weird, effeminate, and difficult. What if I told you I’ve been attracted to blonde guys who barely speak English? Doesn’t sound so conforming.
Did you have your eye on anybody from back home?
No. Almost no guys back home were attractive. The looks of every guy I have been with here in Santa Barbara easily surpasses the looks of every guy I went to high school with.